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I have read and identify with the Avoidant Personality disorder. Here is my problem.

I am not really shy and can carry on conversations with relative ease. But I really don\'t have any friends; I am 23 and haven\'t had a \'best friend\' for almost 10 years now. I would like to make some but fear that others will see how lonley and \'friendless\' I am. This is a terrifying possibility, as I believe people will judge me based on lack of friends. So this only perpetuates the disorder. What can I do?

Sincerely, Michelle

PS> I am a single mom and trying to reach out also for the sake of my daughter. I fear she will be \'socially disadvantaged\' with such an isolated mother. ( she is 2.5 years old)

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