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Hi,

I have been on and off with this guy. He cheated and lied the whole time we were together with his ex-girlfiend. I tried my best to stay away from him. I did for 2 straight months. But then he came back and it's just all arguing and fighting now. I try to stay away from him but it seems like it's impossible for me. I sure do not trust him at all. But I love him!

Here is when I think I am crazy! I can't stop arguing and fighting with him. And day and night all I think about is that it's the same thing over and over again! What is he doing? Is he lying? Why is he doing this? And I go crazy in my mind! 

I cry a lot and I start insulting him and then I apologize for what I say!! I do not have the energy to do anything anymore. I haven't been doing my homework. I have been avoiding school. And I go to work because I have no choice. I can't stop crying and thinking about the same problem all the time.

For the past month I have lost weight like never before. It's really hard for me to concentrate on anything. On my days off all I want to do is stay in bed in my pajamas. I feel so sad all the time. And I can't stop thinking about him and all the stuff he has done to me.

The thing is I am tired of feeling sad all the time. I can't continue living and making this problem the center of my life. I don't even know how to control myself anymore. I need a change! 

What should i do? Do I need medication to feel better? How do I help myself to get out of this situation?

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