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Last February I lost my grandmother, I loved with her and took care of her for the last two years of her life. She had Alzheimer's. Less than a week after her death I was informed that an uncle that I am not too close too was in the hospital and most likely going to die. He didn't. About a month later my cousin died and a month after that an uncle I was close to died. Now my Aunt (that uncle's wife), who I am very close to is dying, she has stage 4 cancer and they told us this week she has 3-6 months to live. I feel nothing. No sadness no tears, I don't understand. I think her daughter is upset with me because she is crying all the time and I support her but there is no sadness or emotion on my part. I am there about 3 times a week I do what I can to help out. I think I should be feeling something.

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