Helping My Husband

My husband is suffering from depression. The M.D. gave him some samples of a med that seems to be working on both the emotional and the physical part of his depression. There are good days and there are bad. Most of the time he stays in our bedroom. He is seeing a councilor and I realize that he will need time to get back on his feet. I want to support him as best as I can. But I feel useless. I do not know how I can help him. I let him know that I and the children love him and that we will get through this not matter what. I have started looking for a job to take the burden off of him having to do it all. He has missed two weeks of work and they expect one more week and then they are going to try letting him go back to work. This depression was the worse that I have ever seen. He tried to take his life. My husband is just not that kind of man. But things are getting better with time and counseling and the medication. I just want to help him the best way I can without coming across to mothering or to cold to the situation. What do you suggest?

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