Mother showering & sleeping in same bed with 5 year old

Please help, I\'m extremely concerned. My fiance has a son, who is 5 let\'s just say his name is \"Roy\". Now \"Roys\" mother is his primary care giver he\'s there for the most part 5 days a week, we get him for a couple hours during the week and Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon. His mothers shares a bed with him (even though \"Roy\" has his own bedroom and his own bed. \"Roys\" mother also showers with him on a daily basis-6 days a week. Now to me this is so....... abnormal. My question is whether or not she is causing any future mental develpoment problems???? My fiance is also very concerned but is very passive. We attempted to explain to \"Roy\" he should take a shower alone and sleep alone which he does while he is at our house and he screams and cries and said his mom is the boss. What is your opinion, and what should we do if anything.

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