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My Husband and I have been together for 7 years, then married for 4. Our views for so much of our lives are the same, child rearing, the value of education, work ethic, financial responsibility, how we will care for our parents as they age. Seems like a good foundation for a relationship, but, we cannot seem to get along as a couple.

For me, it seems that, as I have watched him achieve all of his goals, his ego has grown also. I feel my opinions are not valued. Along with this all of these views of the traditional wife have appeared too. I feel like no matter what I do it wont be enough to please him. I wouldn't even care about doing more if I received some positive feedback, or gratitude.

Our intimacy is also disappearing He doesnt tell me I'm beautiful and so, I don't really feel sexy. Because of all our issues I don't even feel emotionally connected to him anymore. He won't even agree to counseling now.

Overwhelmed, under appreciated. Advice?

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