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1. How long have you been together? 8 yrs

2. What is your age range? 40-45

3. Please share your story:

I had posted a question earlier titled, "How do I move past this?" Staff advised me that what I was in was an abusive relationship and that I couldn't heal as long as I was in this relationship. I thought I could forgive my husband for his repeated infidelities, but I can't. I have discovered that I have no self esteem whatsoever and continue to have horrid flashbacks.

I want to leave him. There in lies the problem. He is the sole bread winner of the family. I stay at home with our three children ages 17, 11 (and low functioning autistic) and 2. I have recurring ovarian cancer.

How do I leave him? Where can I go? I am lost. I find myself wishing the cancer would just kill me so I wont be trapped anymore. I love him, but I have come to realize this will not work anymore. I need to get out for my daughters and I need to get out for me. But how? I don't know how.

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