Lonesome

I ended a 3 year relationship in March of this year. I have been on antidepressants and in therapy. I still feel quite depressed. I have met people, but they turn out flakey. They don't call or cancel dates which just perpetuates the depression. I don't look forward to the evenings or weekends because I feel so alone. I feel when I reach out to people there is this big risk of getting hurt all over again. I don't feel suicidal, just really down. I have started to read Mars & Venus, but that reminds me of just how hopeless relationships can be, and I'm only 32. I have decided not to contact my ex because that gets me down as well. I tried to be friends, but I need more time to heal. It does bother me though that he doesn't feel affected by this in the least. In fact when I told him I was moving out, his response was well you gotta do what you gotta do. He seems fine with everything which really hurts. So, I know just get on and stay busy right? Well there are only so many times I can exercise and go shopping. I don't have many friends as it is either. And the ones I do have are caught up with their mates.

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