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I don't know what to do! I have been married for 3 years now and my sex life with my husband wasn't always that often, but, back then it wasn't a problem.  Now he doesn't want to even touch me any more! I ask him, beg him sometimes, and he just says he is tired from work. I mean we both work and pay bills. Yes, his job is different than mine because I have an office job and he has a labor job. He makes me feel as if my job isn't up to his level!

Well, my big problem lately is, since he doesn't touch me, he doesnt kiss me, doesnt do anything with me, I have found that my way out is masturbation along with visiting porn sites. And many times I find my self thinking that a woman would treat me better than he treats me. I watch alot of girl on girl pronography.  

I don't want to leave my husband because I think that SEX tis he answer! But sometimes i go crazy! I want it every day at all hours.. and he doesnt even want it once a week.. I have tried to see if he is cheating on me but there is no way.. He goes to work, goes home goes to work goes home! I'm really scared! Is it maybe a problem that I have.. am I not normal?

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